https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/19/opinion/sunday/baby-breastfeeding-sleep-training.html
The takeaway seems to be - look at data like an economist.
If there is not an obvious harm or benefit to your child, then look to your own health and your own personal preferences.
Facts and data are so important, because if you make decisions without them what are you looking at? Blind guesses, old stereotypes, guilt?
There seem to be a lot of assumptions that ANYTHING that will make a parents life easier (or, you know, keeps their own physical & mental health stable) must therefore be a selfish choice that is bad for the baby.
Best to always be a martyr, just in case.
When in reality, if formula and sleep training means the parents are not depressed, more patient, better able to cherish their time with their kid....that's gotta be better for the kid and the family in the long run.
PLUS maybe the kid is getting more food and more sleep that way too.
Another issue is Labels.
Instead of asking, do i want to be a stay at home mom or a working mom?
Ask, what is the optimal number of hours for me & my partner to work outside the home?
Rather than picking your pile of stigma, you can look at the time/money balance to see what suits your family.
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